Ways to increase masculine energy?

Perhaps it would be better to treat the cause rather than the symptoms.

In the current culture sexual distortions of all sorts, big or small, psychological emotional physical, you name it are everywhere. And people often respond to this by sticking a band aid on it, or trying to stop doing something, or trying to start doing another thing … i.e. trying to live up to yet another idea of what they should be.

And there are many ideas about what we should be. Strong, sensitive, tough, caring, restrained, sexy … and all at the same time ! Wonder how things go wrong.

So in my opinion it is better not to worry about how you are, and instead try to become yourself and be comfortable with that.

Instead of saying “She said I should do X” … begin to feel your own life. What do you actually want ? What are you feeling ? … you don’t have to tell me, but be honest to yourself.

Most people really need to be loved for who and what they are, and to be helped to be themselves.

And a good dose of shaking out any “ideas” that you have about what you should be is also good. 5 Animals is good at purging this kind of thing, or Kundalini Meditation (Osho).

Most likely if you start trying to enforce more Yang energy or this or that on yourself, you will create even more problems because you are only dealing with your outer appearance and not your real needs.

Are you willing to be who you are ? To have the feelings that you have ?

And, do you have a way of purging from yourself all the crap that we pick up in this society ? And do you have good people to spent time with ?

Hi Perceiver,

Fair warning: my post here may seem a little harsh, but I can’t help but feel that you’ve been asking the wrong questions–over and over again–and you are sort of stuck in a rigid groove of a trapped thinking pattern. So I’m going to give you a little bit of harsh push and see if I can’t knock you out of this. My apologies in advance if it seems harsh; my approach here is intentional, as I can feel your frustration permeating over several threads.

First off, just because a healer or reader told you something, doesn’t mean it is true. People can say all kinds of stuff, and because they speak from a position of regard, they get trusted. You need to take what folks say with a grain of salt.

Second, even if true, the male/female dynamic on an energetic level is intrinsic to *WHO YOU ARE*. It is not something that needs to be changed to fit some society idea. This is a big problem in our culture. Society promotes some kind of idea of what men/women/people are expected to be, and then folks use this yardstick as a way to be destroy their own self-acceptance because they don’t match this. People need to stop letting society tell them who they are, and start just accepting who they are as an individual unique person. You define you; society doesn’t. Personally, anybody–and especially a healer–that tells you that you need to “be more X”, needs to be told to FUCK OFF. Seriously dude, you need to stop listening to these folks, and start accepting who you are. Think about it: how you can you be imbalanced, if you are who you truly are? It doesn’t even make sense in this slightest. The only time we are imbalanced is if we are NOT who we are, and we are repressing our true desires.

Now you say this:
>>>which may be exacerbated by all my reading and writing.
>>>I feel stuff changing for the better when I do
>>>social activities – some energies are being
>>>better integrated. Come next year my job situation
>>>might change which gives me more opportunity
>>>for extrovert opportunities.

If *YOU* feel you are doing too much reading and writing, if *YOU* feel that you feel better when you do more social activities (assuming this is what you FEEL and this is not just a mental idea) . . . then this has more to do with you feeling stifled and trapped in a situation that you don’t like, one where you feel like you are not living in true alignment with “who you are” and “what you want out of life.”

This is a completely different situation, and has zero to do with masculine/feminine. This is about feeling restless, about feeling frustrated that your true self is being forced into a closet . . . and you are looking for ways to get it to “shut up”, so that you can keep doing the same things that you are doing that really don’t provide your true self with any real joy, because you won’t accept who you are and what you want.

You talk about your job situation, and how that may change, and how you might be happier at that point . . . BUT that puts off an idea of relief to some unknown future. It’s an avoidance tactic. And this future job itself and its conditions may or may not actually provide you with the happiness you seek either. This is all external stuff. These are just arguments from the mind to convince you to keep living your life in a way that you feel frustrated by.

In your real life job, are you an engineer?
You seem to take the approach that all you need to do is find the person that will tell you the right “dials and settings” on yourself so you can tune to the right frequency and make the symptoms you find that are annoying, go away. A person is not a thermostat!!, i.e. all I need do is “dial up masculine energy” and “then the room will be the right temperature”. This is too mechanical and manipulative to be the true solution. But this seems–to my eyes–to be the approach that you are taking.

Instead, if you tune in to who you truly are and what you truly want, all the settings will automatically come into alignment and they will be *whatever they need to be* to have optimal health and happiness.

If you are avoiding living your life in a way that honors who you truly are, and want you truly want, would be any kind of surprise in being restless? You’ve spoken in other posts about insomnia. Is it any wonder that you can’t sleep if you have a lot of bottled energy that wants you to honor who you are and do something other than what you are doing? I mean, if I were suppressing my real true desires, I’d be pretty restless and unable to sleep too.

To my eyes, that’s what’s going on here. Basically the story I’m hearing is: “I’m not happy with my life, and I’m not living it the way I want to, not honoring who I truly am; internally, my body is rebelling and restless because it wants something different; instead of listening, I want solutions that provide symptom-relief and allow me to continue to keep doing what I’m doing, without changing and coming into alignment with my true self; meanwhile, I’ll cast judgments about myself about how I have too much feminine energy or whatever, so I can accept myself even less than I already do.”

Honestly, this is where your solution comes from, not from exercises, per se.

But if you want exercises, Inner Smile would be most critical. If you are already doing it, do it more. Self-acceptance of who you are, so that you can develop the courage to let your true self shine forth rather than keep it buried, is the way to go. Grounding practices to get out your head and these mental ideas of “who you should be” would also be supportive. There’s too much influence from your mind, from “healers that tell you you have too much feminine energy”, from society, etc. and these are all clouding the true self within–that is screaming to be heard–that is restless and wants to be able to be expressed.

Now after hearing my post, your reaction may be: “Fuck you, you jerk! You don’t know me! I am . . .”

Good! And that a good start. 🙂
Start filling in those blanks after the “I am . . .” and start taking actions in your life that reflect who you are, and what you want. NOW. Not a year from now when you get a different job, not next week after you finish XYZ, not anytime other than now. If you don’t want to do this–and no judgments if you don’t, as it is your life–then realistically, in my view, you are not going to get unstuck. You will keep seeking out healers that you hope will slip you some small nugget of advice that will help you get slightly more symptom-relief, meanwhile avoiding the real problem and–if anything–amplifying it. In my honest opinion.

Best to you,
Steven

Good answer Steven …

In my opinion we can do qi gong to remove the stress and we change nothing … something like plaster over the wound …

or

we do qi gong to be who we really are …

So … we can talk the talk or do the real stuff … walk the walk … that simple it is …

Best, Jox … 🙂

Thanks perceiver for the additional background.

However, I still stand by my original assessment, and–in fact–am even more solid in it now than before. It doesn’t sound to me like kundalini. It sounds more like a qi deviation caused by a kidneys/fear on overdrive. I suspect the energy rush you experienced before and continue to experience is this, and likely occurred as a self-sabotage effort to keep you from moving out of your fear pattern when you were in counseling.

As I said in my previous post above, you need to stand in your truth, in the voice of your true self. When you are honoring who you truly are, and you are aligned with this, there is zero to fear because you are living authentically. How can anyone challenge or judge that? This is why I recommended, and still do, the Inner Smile and Grounding. You need self-acceptance bro. If you accept yourself and stand in your own truth, you have nothing to fear from anybody, because other peoples’ opinions of you become totally and completely irrelevant. You don’t take them on as your own identity. You recognize their opinions as a relationship they have with themselves that has nothing to do with you. But you need to align with your true self in self-acceptance to not only understand that, but to feel it deep down to a cellular level.

And you need to release and get out of your head with all of this overactive thinking that is creating both conscious and unconscious nightmare storylines that serve no purpose other than generating more fear. So hence the grounding recommendation.

If you can’t break the qi deviation on your own, then getting in touch with a medical qigong healer who can do qi healing and/or shengong repair is the way to go.
But in lieu of this, I stand by my earlier recommendations.

Best to you,
Steven

Hi Perceiver! It seems to me that you had a kind of premature awakening which made you vulnerable. But only premature in terms of making you vulnerable, and suddenly you need to handle more than you are capable of. I’ve been there mate, and although I had less trouble I can relate to what are you going through. I beleive that this is a modern problem, where this can happen for one or both of these reasons:
1. You did a modern non holistic or traditional but too advanced technique.
2. After awakening you found yourself in harsh internal or external environment. By internal bad environment I mean by what you could do to yourself because of habits even tought habits.