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Oleg,
I did a brief look on that website but couldn’t find the section you were talking about. So, here are some thoughts about sexual vampires and sexual parasites.
Sexual vampires. I think that they are mostly people, not energetic entities. They cultivate their sexual energy and charisma to get other people to release their sexual energy, which they then take in. Porn stars / models / actors are good at getting you to release their sexual energy, and if they are good at then taking in your energy, then that would make them a sexual vampire. I don’t think that sexual vampires are very common.
Sexual parasites. These, I think are very common. I think that they are mostly low astral entities that are attracted to unclaimed sexual energy and can even help incite you to lose sexual energy. For example, if you masturbate thinking while having some fantasy, when you come, who claims your sexual energy? It is unlikely that you claim it yourself if you were engaging in fantasy. If you were engaged in internal energy work while masturbating, then you probably did not lose too much energy outwards. Most likely, though, that energy was claimed by a sexual parasite. The parasites, I think, also have the ability to incite that fantasy for you, making you want to come again and again, losing more energy to them.
So, my thinking is that it is not good to engage in fantasy about other people, or you lose your energy either to them or to some parasite. Best is to be in a loving relationship with another person in which you share your sexual energies with each other – yin and yang in a dance of passion.
Chris
I haven’t read that book Oleg. So, can you type out the paragraph in which they mention sexual vampires and parasites?
Why do you ask?
Are you talking about humans acting as sexual vampires or parasites, or about non-physical beings acting that way?
Hi adel,
I think that you are right on the money when you end your post with “I
need to trust where this will lead us. More deep earth pulsing seems to be what is needed.”More earth, more grounding, allows our system the gentle connectedness to do what is needed to allow it to shift into a new way of being. We often just need to have the will to sit with these bad feelings, not doing anything in reaction to them, but allowing our system to witness and adjust so that it no longer creates that bad feeling.
I enjoyed your post about the red dragon. The sense you created of being in the presence of a dragon is similar to mine.
Chris
Oh, I thought from what you wrote that you were feeling what I described. It is good that you are happy with what you are finding.
Have fun with Fusion.
I like that your the “great Winn” sounds like “the great One”!
A heart connection is a wonderful thing.
A heart connection with your lover is sublime.I think that it is a very special and unique man who has the ability to both send love from his heart to hers, and to feel love from her heart to his.
Congratulations!
When you say that love is harmful, I assume that you mean a form “false” love that is parastic onto, and controlling of, the other?
Because “true” love is one of the highest goods – it connects us with others in a deep and wonderful manner. And, that sort of good love can be physical, social or spiritual in its density.
Here I speak of “false” and “true” like is done in the Taoist tradition (e.g. false yang and true yang).
Hi David,
I am so happy that my words helped you look at your situation differently. If you have any other questions about the pleasures and pitfalls of deepening and strengthening your sexual and spiritual relationship, Wendy and I would be more than happy to share our thoughts.
best of luck,
Chris
David,
An intimate relationship between two people is special, unique and fragile. It is special to trust someone so deeply that you share with them all of your secrets, desires and difficulties, and allow them to help you with them. It is unique in that there is something about your energies that they interact and create the special tingle of love. And, it is fragile because it is so easy for this deep connection to be ruptured by a single mistake.
You say that there is something appealing to you about your wife being with another man, and that this is something that you give to her. I am wondering if you are resonating with the idea of a younger man being with her, and this makes you feel like that younger man, and it makes you feel more yang and bigger than you now feel. If that is the case, then I suggest instead of allowing that other man in that you learn to improve your “game” and energy and become that more yang man.
If you “give” this young man to your wife, you will become less of a man to her. You will be retreating some of your yang self from her to allow this other man in. You will be less man to her, not more. This is a huge mistake, and gets back to the fragility.
Is your wife asking for this other man? If so, find out what about it appeals to her. What is she wanting energetically? Then figure out how YOU can do that for her. It is possible that you are yang and she is not experiencing it enough because of subtle blocks in her towards you.
It is not about the amount of seed that she gets, but the quality of the seed and what she does with it. You can control the quality (the vibrance, the love) and she controls what she does with it. Women can have the special ability to move the energy of the seed through their body and multiply it again and again…with love.
I know that you are hungry – I just hope that you and your wife take the time to cook a good and healthy meal, instead of going for some fast food.
Chris
Davide,
I want to second what Bagua said. There is a vast supply of energy out there in the universe – trees, rocks, oceans, moon, sun, planets, space etc. The goal of Taoism is to learn to open yourself to them and experience them. At the human scale, there are also vasts amount of energy that can be shared between you and your wife, and you just need to learn to be open to them.
There are many blocks that develop between couples, and relationships offer us the opportunity to discover those blocks and release them. In fact, that is the one of the most special thing about a long-term relationship – the opportunity to have a partner who is your mirror and helps you get better. Wendy and I have found great help from using the Imago system of Harville and Helen Hendrix.
Getting sperm from some other person is like any other drug – it feels good, but it in the long run it develops a dependency in you and thus weakens you. Now, most of us do enjoy our drugs (e.g. sugar, caffeine, alcohol), and we need to learn to come into balance with them. The problem with sperm is that, like Steven mentions, it is energetically very sticky, and if your wife is extracting the energy from it well then she will become energetically very intimate with that young man. Perhaps that turns you on somehow, in which case this is an opportunity for you to explore energetically what that is doing for you, how that feeling relates to past things in your life etc. (again, the Imago method is great for exploring these historical reasons for feeling something).
best of luck,
Chris
